This thought, it just so sudden after I tweeted this. Lol. I think it worth to share because a lot of my friends decided to marry in young age. Meanwhile my self just ask silently in the air, "Why are you guys so fast? Give me some reasons unless the biological factor." Maybe it can be some of consideration.
I may get trouble to talk about having family in the recent time, you know. When a girl or boy who start their 20s and ask like me, some of readers could think that, "hahaha she's lying, she actually want badly to get married". Okay my first response: who the hell on Earth do not want live happily ever after? with their love, a companion of life, until the death separate them. But please people, don't judge people as fast as the tweets appeared every second. When somebody have a question like me, it doesn't mean he or she avoid to get married, to have a boy or girl friend, or to start a serious relationship with their spouse. Because having a family with good predicate isn't easy as, "Next year I am going to propose or get proposed and then months later I'll marry her or get married by him, and blablablabla". For me, having a good family come from a good marriage too.
Marriage, in freedictionary.com is defined as a state or relationship of living together in a legal partnerships. More than it, marriage is something important for me, but it doesn't mean big and luxury. You can not do that like buying some street foods, spend almost your whole gold bucket for a night just to satisfy your temporary desire. Indeed It's once, but the effect may change your entire life time. Funny huh? When people shorten that previous statement become, "once in life time, so that I have to make a superb ceremony for it and the world must know, even the stranger that I met yesterday!". IMHO, that primitive. Sorry.
Okay, I am not the one who experienced that married-things directly but I saw the real stories from my closest family and concluded some points about good married.
Marriage is not about rushing time, but taking time.
Marriage is not about looking for similarity, but completing the riddles.
Marriage is not about two people, but two-wenty times people because it will involve each big family.
and.......last,
Marriage is not happening in one night, but every day when you wake up: face the world together, solve the problem hand in hand , and of course trust each other.
There is no "love" in my explanation, isn't it. How dare? People, when you marry some one of course it's because you like him/her and you love him/her. But do not only say that special magic word when your D-day come. It's a commitment, dude. Not a romantic drama where love is everything. If you said only love, it showed that emotion win and the logic lose. That is what you always see in playboy or pussy girl, let's call the "premature". Everyone used to be them, not even me :))
Secondly, I don't mention money literally before. How come? Well, I don't say you have to be rich when you start to plan the marriage. But at least you must think that love can not be eaten, it's invisible.
