Having Family

 

This thought, it just so sudden after I tweeted this. Lol. I think it worth to share because a lot of my friends decided to marry in young age. Meanwhile my self just ask silently in the air, "Why are you guys so fast? Give me some reasons unless the biological factor." Maybe it can be some of consideration.

I may get trouble to talk about having family in the recent time, you know. When a girl or boy who start their 20s and ask like me, some of readers could think that, "hahaha she's lying, she actually want badly to get married". Okay my first response: who the hell on Earth do not want live happily ever after? with their love, a companion of life, until the death separate them. But please people, don't judge people as fast as the tweets appeared every second. When somebody have a question like me, it doesn't  mean he or she avoid to get married, to have a boy or girl friend, or to start a serious relationship with their spouse. Because having a family with good predicate isn't easy as, "Next year I am going to propose or get proposed and then months later I'll marry her or get married by him, and blablablabla". For me, having a good family come from a good marriage too. 

Marriage, in freedictionary.com is defined as a state or relationship of living together in a legal partnerships. More than it, marriage is something important for me, but it doesn't mean big and luxury. You can not do that like buying some street foods, spend almost your whole gold bucket for a night just to satisfy your temporary desire. Indeed It's once, but the effect may change your entire life time. Funny huh? When people shorten that previous statement become, "once in life time, so that I have to make a superb ceremony for it and the world must know, even the stranger that I met yesterday!". IMHO, that primitive. Sorry.

Okay, I am not the one who experienced that married-things directly but I saw the real stories from my closest family and concluded some points about good married. 

Marriage is not about rushing time, but taking time.
Marriage is not about looking for similarity, but completing the riddles.
Marriage is not about two people, but two-wenty times people because it will involve each big family.
and.......last,
Marriage is not happening in one night, but every day when you wake up: face the world together, solve the problem hand in hand , and of course trust each other. 

There is no "love" in my explanation, isn't it. How dare? People, when you marry some one of course it's because you like him/her and you love him/her. But do not only say that special magic word when your D-day come. It's a commitment, dude. Not a romantic drama where love is everything. If you said only love, it showed that emotion win and the logic lose. That is what you always see in playboy or pussy girl, let's call the "premature". Everyone used to be them, not even me :)) 

Secondly, I don't mention money literally before. How come? Well, I don't say you have to be rich when you start to plan the marriage. But at least you must think that love can not be eaten, it's invisible. 

Me used to be

Another song came from the same album  which I reviewed before, Dandelion.
I found this,

"I'll be fine" 

Today another day has gone,
and I'm still here alone stuck with the pieces of yesterday
Yesterday wasn't enough,
sometimes life can be so though without your love, once it's hurting you
What about faith? does it need conquer?
and you'll find this strength within you to go on
Singing nanananana~
Don't you worry
I'll be fine someday...
What is life without heartache?
Every time for build and teaches, us some new things everyday
Now this is faith. It does conquer
and it gives us strengthen hope to carry on
Singing nanananana~
Don't you worry
i'll be fine someday.

What a proper song to resume my 'old' stories hahaha *waving hands* *bye*

It'll always good to say hello for Today, the best gift ever ! 

Hai

07.56 AM. Bandung

Hi there readers. Thank God for your miracles every day. I feel so blessed, Alhamdulillah.

Special for this morning, I want review a bit about a song, on of best song for me. It was made by Monita Tahalea and Gerald Situmorang, two talented musician from Indonesia . Here it is.

"Hai"

Hai teman, apa kabar

Lama tak kudengar suaramu

Apa harimu bermentari

Adakah malamu dihiasi mimpi

Hai teman, hapus sudah

Senyum kelabu di wajahmu

Masa yang lalu tlah berlalu

Kini hari baru bernyanyi untukmu

Temanku tidakkah kamu tahu

Bahwa dunia rindukan senyummu

Dengarlah indah suara rintik hujan

yang turun membasahi bumi

memeluk tanah gersang

nyanyikan lagu tentang langit biru

dan lagu tentang cinta yang slalu sembuhkan luka

Suara denting piano, hapuskan air mata

Indah alunan gitar, membuat hatimu tegar

Hai teman tidakkah kamu tahu,

bahwa dunia rindukan senyummu

Hai teman tidakkah kau mengerti,

bahwa dirimu sangat berarti

Seperti indah rintik - rintik hujan

yang turun membasahi bumi

memeluk tanah gersang

nyanyikan lagu tentang langit biru

Begitu sang cinta akan datang padamu sembuhkan luka

cinta selalu sembuhkan luka

karena dirimu sangat berarti

Good job Monita and friends! The message of the song was luckily accepted by my brain neuron and hit strike to the cerebellum. Every time I sing along with this song, my memories were bring to friends who come, go, or still stay beside me. I can't mention them one by one but they are such a great lecturer in my life. I am now now was accidentally built by them. 

How I miss you, friends. I hope you all are doing well.

Ps:

I would like to receive any correction for the lyrics :p

The ones that I mean in this post: Le Voyage
Video of this song who made my heart fall to it: Monita, "hai"

Merantau

Good evening from Bandung.
10th of December 2015.
Cisitu Indah 2/12

Special for today, I picked up the title from Bahasa Indonesia. It's not because today Mr. Jokowi is coming to Bandung (who cares?) or the concurrent election has just been held yesterday in every district of Indonesia (I choose to be absent, though). Merantau is one of Indonesian words that can't be translated better in English. It will be meaningless if I used the english version, imho. Such an absurd reason I knew it hahaha *evil smirk*

Merantau (verb): (1) Leave one's home area to make one's way in life. (2) Wander about. (3) Sail along the reaches of a river

I've stay in this town about more than 4 years, far from my parents, and try to do everything by myself. Thank God I still have financial and motivation support just like in my hometown, but the taste is different. Indeed, I've realized it since the first time I spent my night here, alone. And then now, it reached its peak. The academic duty has became a pressure inside my heads, overlapping life emotion, over thinking of everything , plus.... little bit unfavorable weather. Perfect. If my feeling was converted into an artwork, maybe this is the highest value of it.

Companion for last 2 days. 

Boys

They are my friends, the close ones. Each of them, I  have at least a story with (sweet or bitter lol). Been more than 4 years knowing these boys.... what a bizarre fate! Sometimes this question come up among my nerve cells, "How come I met them? And why?" 

When I were sophomore-junior, we used to spent times together almost everyday. Going here and there without any plans, live like we are forever young~ Until the times that I scared about is coming, they're moving one by one to the next step: final project, graduation, girl friend, or (maybe) their little new family sooner. Am I jealous? Indeed. What kind of people on Earth can be chilled when someone whose belong to them are leaving? I can't be. I learnt vast about boys from them, how they think, solve problem, to be understood, make decision, and friendship. Anyway thank you for making me always get a question, "which one is your boyfriend?" damn you people :'D none of them and I will not. This is the best way to know them as a friend. I'm afraid to lose them because that such relation. For any woman who got their heart, you are the luckiest woman, ever ! they're sooooo annoying and adorable in a package. HAHAHA.

Good luck, bro! Be a good, wise, and warm man :)

Sincerely, 

your immature rounded-fried-potato called minion.

I Called This My Family Month #IStampsYou

Thank God, You let me to grow around them. 

That's my first words every time I remember my family. I realized what happened in May until August isn't what I've planned. It's totally changed except the reunion. Yes, I live in Bandung now, My older brother in Jakarta, my older sister in UK, and my parents in Surabaya. That's why I don't want to miss every single moment with them. 

My family is not as fancy as people thought. We are happy and love each other indeed, but we used to feel anger, sadness, disappointment.... that's normal. What makes special to have them is the process when I learnt to solve problems. I know how to care, love, and wisdom from my mom. Be strong and mature, from my dad. Good-girl-things, dreams, and fashions from my beloved sister. in other way, my brother show me how to think realistic. Haha my two siblings frequently have different opinions. Then, though I don't have a blood relation with my brother-in-law, he showed me how to blend with new family. Last but not least, I also learnt from my nieces and nephew the importance of child world, it's kind of age I should not forget the taste.

Family like branches of tree, we all grow in different directions yet our roots remain as one

Having somewhere to go is home, having someone to love is family, and having both of them is blessing 

  

Grand Launching: I Stamps You !

Hi Everyone !

Tonight I want to introduce my new "invention" ! Not really a great invention though, But somehow I love it and keep my spirit up to chase tomorrow, next week, next month, even a new year ! I am wondering what will my day be, so curious ~ 

Just I did this afternoon, I made a personal stamps. Yes, I made a new kind of documentation in a little frame. I will choose the most precious moment among the other, we simply called it something unforgettable. Then I'll collect it on a custom notes book. Maybe it can be another story book for my junior or grand grand junior (lol). Anyway it was just some part of my personal stamps for this year, next stories will come out December ! Yippie ~~~

Really hope this new habit can be long last until I am gone. At least I will have a unique book to left after strolling around this beautiful Earth. Thank God for Your thousand creative ways , I am truly happy :)
Special thank to PT Pos Indonesia who help me to create all of these through PRISMA edition. We only need to spent Rp 32.000,00 for every  sheet, worth it !